Stressed and Worried

[bk_forever]

The heading says it all really.

Now mum's gone, her will says everything is to be left half to me and half to my older sister. This includes the house. Now if my sister was any kind of a decent person, she'd be happy to let me remain in the family home. She lives 50 miles away, has her own home and a good job. I can't work because of health problems, so I have very little in the way of savings.

I was born in this house, I've never had any other home, and because of my health problems, my home has become my safe place, my sanctuary. It's everything that's familiar. I know the area, I have good neighbours who help when I need it, and all my memories of mum are here, memories that cover 53 years. Naturally, I want to stay here.

But, my sister seems to think that what I want might not be feasible. If she wants her share of the house, there's no way I can buy her out. Even if I scraped together every penny I have, I wouldn't even have a tenth of what that would cost, so now, when I'm still mourning mum, who's only been gone three weeks, I'm facing the possibility of losing my home too. My sister doesn't need the money, and I'm perfectly willing to pay all the house bills and other expenses myself. I don't want to be forced into moving to an unfamiliar area, surrounded by strangers, just because my sister wants her share of mum's estate now.

I'm scared. I don't cope well with change, so I don't know what I'm going to do. This is my home. Where will I go if I have to leave? I really don't need all this stress and worry.

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[lexxiescott]

It just sounds so great. :) The lack of the appointment is probably my favorite part, because it means people can just come as they need and he'll get to them in order. Then again, I see the same thing in our ER and some people wind up sitting for hours. In our case, it really depends on how many ambulances come in, and how serious those problems are.

it's weird. I love old churches (old buildings in general) but I'm not at all religious. Something I do NOT advertise down here. The South is very, very religious. *rolls eyes*

*winces* I was hoping a severe migraine wouldn't manifest and add to your stress right now. Hope it gets better quick for you. Or, at least, doesn't hang around longer than three days. It is so not fair of your sister to put you in this position, and I really would like to give her a swift kick.

[bk_forever]

Yeah, me too, but it probably wouldn't help my case.

My head is better, my stomach is getting there, but I feel wrung out. Just hope my sister doesn't descend on me this weekend, i need a chance to rest so I can get to Citizen's Advice on Monday.

I've always loved churches, especially old ones. I was raised Christian, and I still am, but nor Church religious. I hate the way religion is being used as an excuse for bigotry, repression, discrimination, intolerance and acts of violence. To me, it should be about caring and treating everyone equally.

[lexxiescott]

I hope she doesn't either. Get as much rest as you can. I'm glad your head is doing better. Now for the stomach. Sucks that they do this as a pair when you're already feeling down from everything else.

Right there with you. It's like I say, I respect beliefs no matter what, but not when someone uses them as an excuse to be narrow-minded or petty. Or to get out of work, as a couple of girls in the pathology lab have been doing. The bodies in the cooler are not going to jump up and bite them, no matter what they seem to think. I don't know if I have to blame cultural beliefs, or too much zombie propaganda on TV. *sighs*

[bk_forever]

Gradually improving still. When I go out, I almost always get one or the other as a backlash. I was unlucky this time to get both. It sometimes happens that way, but it's seriously not fun.

Was sorting through some papers and found two photos of mum from a few years back when a group of neighbours went out for a meal for some big occasion. She looks so happy sitting there about to tuck into a big ice cream sundae. That's the way I want to remember her.

I respect beliefs when people aren't using them to cause harm of some sort.

Saw a fabulous Time Team special of Stonehenge this morning on TV! Fascinating.

[lexxiescott]

Phooey on both hitting you this time around. Glad you're improving though. Hard to fight through both of those, especially when migraines sometimes cause upset stomachs.

Sounds like such a lovely picture to find of your mum. Bet there are others lying around waiting for you to find them as well. That's the best way to remember her.

Stonehenge is always so much fun to learn about. Sadly all we get here in the states is the alien theories. *sighs* American tv has a lot to answer for.

[bk_forever]

Just bad luck, or over-exertion. It was a bad migraine, so that didn't do my stomach much good either.

They're lovely pictures, the best I've got I think. I knew they existed, I'd just completely forgotten, so much has happened since then. Must have been three or four years ago.

I wish you could have watched too, you would have enjoyed it.

[lexxiescott]

I'm leaning towards over-exertion, if only because you were out two days in a row, which is rare for you. Hope you're doing even better today, and going out tomorrow won't cause a relapse.

Isn't it amazing how that happens? Time just flies and things keep getting thrown at us.

What was the exact title, do you remember? It might be on YouTube. Never hurts to look :)

[bk_forever]

The Secrets of Stonehenge - A Time Team Special. I looked on youtube though and the copy I found was blocked =(

I went to the council offices today to visit the Citizen's advice Bureau's drop in centre, but I didn't get to see anyone there because I decided that first I would see about getting some help with filling in my council tax benefit claim form and by the time that was done, the CAB was booked solid. So, now I have to try to go back again tomorrow. I already have a bit of a headache, hope that doesn't develop, but going out again tomorrow (if I manage it) will cripple me again for the rest of the week. One good thing about today is that I popped in a couple of charity shops and found another copy of the card kit I made mum for mother's day, so now I can stitch it again and keep it.

I'm going to rest as much as I can for the rest of the day.

[lexxiescott]

I found an unblocked video from 2009. Is that the one?

Sounds like you had a full and productive day none the less. Getting tax stuff taken care of is always a good thing. :) I'll keep everything crossed that going out again tomorrow doesn't do anything worse than a mild migraine for you. Merlin knows you've been through enough lately.

That's awesome you found another copy of the card. :)

Hope you get some sleep tonight. I've had to tuck my crystals inside my pillowcase because I had something jump on me a couple of nights ago - woke me up - and then also pull at my blankets. I'm not sure if I've brought something home from the hospital or if Mum's brought something new at a second hand store and I don't know about it. Have to see if this works. >.

[bk_forever]

Hope your crystals help, you don't need anything else disturbing your sleep!

Yeah, I hope I can manage tomorrow. It'll be a huge strain though.

I couldn't say whether that's the one or not without seeing it, lol. Not sure what year the one I saw was. Still, I hope you enjoy watching it!

I'm so pleased about getting another card kit. I was going to see if I could get one through the magazine, but now I don't have to =)

[lexxiescott]

It's been about a week between incidents, so I'll know in like five more days if they're working or not. I really hope they are, because that was freaky.

How'd it go today? Hope everything went good for you and you're not feeling too sick from the stress of going out yet again.

I'll let you know some things I pick up from it, see if it sounds familiar to you or not. :) Probably going to watch this weekend when things are a little slower for me.

Yeah, that's just awesome you found the kit again. :) That's a sign if I ever saw one.

[bk_forever]

Today was definitely not great. The guy at the CBA was great, but he's not a legal expert. I really need to see a solicitor to find out where I stand legally. The CBA had two solicitors on their books who do free preliminary consultations on family law. The first was the solicitor who had been holding the will, which ruled them out completely - some sort of conflict of interest issue. The other doesn't do free consultations for anything to do with wills. They charge £179 plus VAT for an hour, so even a half hour initial consultation would be over £100. That's no good to me.

So, I was having a really bad time when canvassing political candidates decided to come around. I told the first one I wasn't voting for his party, he tried to question me, I got upset, shut the door in his face, so he sent his female colleague around. Now she's decided she wants to try to help, which is probably a disaster waiting to happen. She wants to find a solicitor who can advise me. How do I get in these situations? This is the political party that has put benefit sanctions in place that have caused vulnerable people to commit suicide while benefit cheats still get away with it. Now they want to help a random stranger? Still not getting my vote.

I'm tired, it's been a rough day.

Keeping my fingers crossed that you'll have no more incidents.

[lexxiescott]

We'll let Hotch be not amused with us. Good grief. I can see where the firm that held the will wouldn't want to be seen to be taking sides, but he could have at least recommended a place for you to go for help. The other one sounds like he's not much help at all, but who knows. Maybe he's got his field and doesn't want to step out of it. *sighs* I'd had such hopes that they would be able to help you out, especially when you had to go out again to see them.

The lady sounds like a good person that likes to take on quests. Who knows, maybe she'll be able to help you out. If not, I don't know that there's any harm in letting her try. I don't blame you for not voting for them though. The first person to throw in his bid for President is anti-women, so I have no idea if his party will even take a risk on him or not, but it's sort of scary to have someone like that even in government, let alone trying for head of the country. I might immigrate should that happen.

Get some rest and hope you're feeling okay.

Felt like I was being watched again last night. Not sure if it was my imagination or not though.

[bk_forever]

Well, unsurprisingly, lady councilwoman failed to show up, don't suppose I'll be seeing her again. Like most people who say they want to help, when it comes right down to it, they're unreliable.

Got the benefits form to fill in, so I need to get to Hope House early next week for help filling it in. It's got to be submitted by the 18th. Doesn't allow for much time. *sigh*

Another look at the will reveals it says 'to retain or sell', so looks like we don't have to sell. Hoping so anyway, because that would put me on a more stable footing.

Being watched is a lesser problem than earlier. Hopefully whoever it is will back off. Have you thought of gridding crystals around your bed for protection?

I really hope that person doesn't get elected!

[lexxiescott]

Yeah, that's not a surprise she didn't show again. Wish there was some way to help you out though.

*winces* That's not much time, but it is better than the 31st or something like that.

I'm still hoping that your sister will agree to cash/rent and let you stay in the house. That's really the best answer for both of you because there's no way the house would sell quickly and that would just make you sicker and sicker with stress. Keeping my fingers crossed on that one.

I hadn't. I'd have to do it under the mattress because of my mother's robo-vacuum cleaner. The thing likes to come in and eat my things, especially cables for my computer and TV. Drives me mad. I'll have to look up which crystals I need and where to put them. That's a great idea. :)

Me too. Fortunately there's like a four step process to election in the states. What he's done is put his name out for his party to consider nominating him as their official candidate. If that happens, then I'll really start to worry. The man is a moron who really could set the country back centuries.

[bk_forever]

I've pulled myself back up, because I'm the stubborn kind. Got a doctor's appointment tomorrow, I want a letter from him to go in with my benefit application. He had a cancellation, so I'll get that sorted tomorrow then hopefully go to Hope House on Monday. Got a bit of a headache, just praying that doesn't get worse. Going out three times in a week is going to be a nightmare, but I need to do this.

Hope the gridding works out. under the mattress sounds ideal, it'll keep them in place.

At least there's time to make sure that idiot doesn't get chosen as a candidate. Hopefully the rest of the party will support someone else.

[lexxiescott]

You and me both, kiddo. :) Seeing the doctor sounds like a great idea, and I'm glad you were able to get in so quickly to see him. Hopefully everything went well and he was able to help you out with what you needed. Also, fingers crossed the headache didn't go migraine on you.

I did some reading last night and I'll have to lay in a stock of a few crystals, but I have a fluorite (rainbow) spear that I tucked up in the fold of my pillowcase and actually fell asleep holding it, and slept better last night than I have in weeks. Still going to grid, but I think that I'm going to keep the fluorite where it is. :)

Our republican party has become split into groups the past few years, and this moron is one of the top members of what is called the "Tea Party". I think they think they're looking back to the whole revolution ideal and all that. What they really want is to shove America backwards and reenslave women and minorities. The real problem comes when you realize how many supporters they actually have in the country. *sighs* Morons all of them

[bk_forever]

There will always be too many morons in the world, sadly.

Good to hear the Fluorite helped you sleep better. What crystals are you needing for gridding?

My head still hasn't made up its mind but my stomach isn't too happy. Thankfully I didn't have to be out for long today. Dr. C. is going to do a letter for me, I was sure he would. He's also made a temporary change to one of my meds because the one I've been on can cause some problems long term, so I'm on something else for a couple of months, something I've been on before. 2 months then back on the other for 6 months, should be better for me than sticking to one long-term. At least I can relax for a couple of days. I hope.

[lexxiescott]

Too many morons. They make my head hurt.

I'm thinking a mix of smoky quartz, clear quartz cleaned and charged in the moonlight, rose quartz, citrine, and black tourmaline. I'm not going to need many, but one page I was reading pointed out that there should always be a set of back-up crystals ready for when the grid needs to be cleaned. I'm thinking six of each in addition to what I already have in my bag under my pillow.

Yay for Dr. C doing a letter for you. He sounds like a nice guy :) That's awesome on the meds too, especially one you've already been on you so know you can tolerate it. Here's hoping for a few days of rest for you so your stomach has a chance to settle down again. Sherre has been so stressed at work this past week (John's being a jerk) that she ended up with a migraine yesterday and her meds make her throw up so she was really sick today. So, of course, it was insane and there was nothing I could do to help out. Can't wait for my foot to heal so I can actually do my job. At least it's the weekend and we have a couple of days to rest.

[bk_forever]

Poor Sherre, that sucks =(

I'll take a look in my stash and see if I can send you a few to help =)

Dr. C. is very nice and helpful. Transition from one med to the other might be a little rough for a couple of days, but hopefully I'll feel better, if not by Monday ten by Wednesday. That might be my best bet for Hope House since that's Dr. C's day there.

Collin is attempting to fill in the forms to apply for probate on mum's will. What a nightmare! It'll take a while even when the forms are done to get the application through the system before mum's accounts can be closed down and everything divided (except the house. The will says 'to retain or to sell'). We do need to get it valued to see if we have to pay inheritance tax though. Ugh. Can do without more things to give me a headache.

Relax as much as you can over the weekend, Sherre needs you back to full fitness as soon as possible! *hugs*

[lexxiescott]

I think she has a date with her new boyfriend this weekend (Robert from work) and maybe that'll help her feel a bit better. She can bitch to him and he totally know what she's talking about.

Aw, thanks so much. :)

Hope it's not too rough. I've got to call and set up an appointment with the new doctor I've found. My other one left the group so I can't afford to go see him anymore. Drives me nuts that so much about medicine is money here in the states. I wish I could have gone to see one of the docs that came in to get his badge replaced. He was a nut and super sweet, but he's a specialist. Keeping him in mind just in case.

Good luck getting back to Hope House. Wednesday would give you enough time to recover a little from the multiple trips you've had to make so far. Getting a chance to update Dr. C, or ask him any other questions, would be a major bonus for you. :)

Deaths are a paperwork nightmare. Wish I was closer so I could help you guys out with it too. I'm glad that Collin is there helping out.

I put a new bookshelf together today. Looks really good, and now I have more space for new books. :) That's always a good thing. Probably didn't need to be lifting it into place like I did, but it's there and that's done. Tomorrow is shopping and, hopefully, writing. I need to figure out what to do for the writing challenge for today.

Get some sleep *hugs* Hope your stomach is doing better.

[bk_forever]

Clocks go forward tonight, so I'll lose an hour of sleep and it's really windy tonight, so that might keep me awake =(

Nuts. Sad to lose a good doctor, hope the new one turns out to be just as good!

Still playing it by ear, I'll see how I am tomorrow and decide if I'm going to try for Monday or not. I'm still feeling pretty crappy, I need time to recover. Collin has set up an appointment for someone to come and value the house so we'll know whether we have to pay inheritance tax or not. I'm hoping not. Also hoping for a low valuation. Everything is so complicated, I can understand why people often hire a lawyer to deal with probate, but that costs the earth so we don't want to go that route, especially since I don't want the house to be sold.

You should get some sleep too. I'm off to bed as soon as I get my emails finished and shut down the computer! Sweet dreams! Have fun with your writing challenge!

[lexxiescott]

That jump ahead for the clocks sucks and I hate whoever it was that thought it was a good idea.

He's from South America and has the highest ranking of any doctor in our network, so I have hopes he'll be good. I'd really rather have a female doctor, but none of them have good rankings. *shrugs* Oh well.

Having lawyers around (at least in the states) is like having ants. Never a good thing. With everything you're dealing with though, I can see where one would be a good idea though. Hope the value is low enough you don't have to pay taxes. Also low enough that maybe your sister will see that selling is not the way to get the money she seems to want so badly.

I actually slept well, but have woken up at 0303 for the past two mornings. No idea why or what has me up and I'm able to get to sleep again, but it sucks. Wish I could sleep right through.

Hope you had a good night even with everything stacked against you. I'm crystal shopping today. Hopefully I'll be able to find a few things at good deals. Friday was pay day and that's always a good day to have.

[bk_forever]

Still feeling crappy so I think I'll wait for Wednesday to go to Hope House. I need a couple more days to get over last week. Did get my hair washed, so that's one thing out of the way.

Estate agent rather than lawyer - I already have an ant problem in the kitchen, don't need lawyers too, lol!

Still heard nothing from my sister and I'm not phoning her at the moment, got enough on my plate with the benefits application.

That's an odd time to wake up, hope you sleep through tonight. I'm still not sleeping great, but at least I do sleep. It would help if I didn't have to keep getting up early to go places. I'm really hoping after Wednesday I can just stay home for a couple of weeks so I can catch my breath. I need to do a spot of cleaning before the valuation so I'm not embarrassed. Vacuum the stairs, landing and my room, clean the bathroom a bit...

Have fun with the crystal shopping!

[lexxiescott]

I don't know why washing your hair is so exhausting, but it totally is. I did mine today too. It's always good to get it out of the way.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z7ap6-e3mVg

Have you seen this bit of Fry and Laurie? It deals with Estate Agents.

I'm glad you haven't heard anything from your sister. I know the stress of waiting isn't good, but you're definitely dealing with enough right now. You don't need that on top of everything else.

Yeah, it really is, and I wish I knew what the heck was going on. Gonna suck if i do it tomorrow because my alarm goes off at 0500 so I can get to work. Not much sleeping time left there.

Good luck with the cleaning. That's probably my least favorite thing to do.

The shop was closed. >.< Only online crystal shop I know of so I guess I have to wait. Oh well.